And this preoccupation with sex is not simply a facet of our fallen nature. The idea of dating in our culture has moved from an activity to a category. Much to the eye rolling consternation of many, indeed most in the church, I have been saying for 25 years that if the bible is our authority there is no basis for any physical romance on any level until the wedding night. As we hope to show, sex, dating, and relationships find their ultimate meaning in the relationship between Jesus and his people; the former testify to the latter. In fact, as we unpack the connection between purity, sex, and the image of the gospel, you will see that purity is all about grace. This new man is not the woman made into the man as is the error of patriarchy, nor the man made into the woman, but instead a totally distinct and new man being formed into the image of Christ.
The disruption of this disciple making function is the primary reason the prophet Malachi rebuked the marital unfaithfulness of priests—it was a breakdown of perpetuating holy union. And as a mother, I find myself wanting to roll my eyes again. But one of the things I wrestled with as a single woman past the age of about 22, was the secular idea that I was not a fully woman until I had lost my virginity. Third, we know many of you come to this book with past regrets. Jay and his wife, Rebecca, have four children.
It calls you to trust Christ as the one who is what you are not, the one who did what you could not, and the one who will help you become what you could never be on your own. Considering the pervasive immorality and high divorce rate of our contemporary Christian culture, we evidently need a biblically based, theologically compelling, practical understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. One of my biggest praises is how deeply theological it is. But when Hiestand and Thomas started using the language of types and shadows that point to the reality of our future hope in Christ, I wanted to stand up and clap. We will not be looking to set up mechanisms for self-control as though self-control were an end to itself. Pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas give us a paradigm-shifting view of purity and relationships--a view that accounts for the biblical evidence and helps us guard against unnecessary heartache.
That said, I do believe the gospel has its application in marriage and is to be infused throughout; sex in its primary function is the making of disciples for Christ. While the authors value singlehood in a way that has not been written about as often in these kind of books, I would have liked to see them talk about how our sexuality is not only for our spouse. We remember learning in science class about the asexual reproduction of single-celled organisms and being grateful that God had chosen a different method of reproduction for humans. Until we understand why God created sex, we will never sufficiently make sense of his commands regarding sexual purity, for his commands always relate to his purposes. I really think we need to articulate these categories well as adults before we can lovingly share our wisdom with our children, teens, and singles. Most helpfully, Paul here links together the familial treatment of the opposite sex with sexual purity.
As one critic put it, such stringent conclusions rely on decontexualized Pauline pronouncements i. That is why I wish they would have maybe mentioned some of the gifts our sexuality offers to our neighbor, and family members that are different expressions than what our spouse receives. It is a body language that speaks an awareness of the gift and power of our gender. But certainly we could be doing better. Great sounding book - thanks for the recommendation! Working my way through the kindle edition of the recommended book. My wife and I were involved in running a workshop on relationships, and we read several books including the one you reviewed and this one , and we found them to be very useful and highly recommend them. We touch upon these other topics only as they relate to this central aim.
But have you ever wondered why all the fuss? Sex, Dating, and Relationships will be a landmark read for many in this generation. But what about the dating relationship? Church members, pick up a couple of copies for the church library. This sounds like a wonderfully biblical book Aimee. He lays out the principles of family and neighbor so children can grow up with a healthy and biblical view of sex and members of the opposite gender without the paranoia. Pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas give us a paradigm-shifting view of purity and relationships—a view that accounts for the biblical evidence and helps us guard against unnecessary heartache. Sex is about the gospel, just like every other thing in life.
Nowhere in Scripture are we given a special license for sexual activity of any kind outside of marriage. I strongly recommend this book as just such a guide. We will not be seeking after an outward obedience devoid of heartfelt submission. Hi Aimee, just to let you know of another good book on the topic of relationships - Holding Hands, Holding Hearts by Richard D. Shocking though this may seem, Scripture expressly states that God created sex to serve as a living portrait of the life-changing spiritual union that believers have with God through Christ. In other words, sex and relationships are all about the gospel. It is new to our culture, and so we have somehow given dating a different level of sexual expression than the neighbor or the family relationships.
Why did God create us as sexual people in the first place? This looks like an excellent resource -- I've placed it on my Amazon. What can a dating couple do that mere friends cannot? Even where I reach different conclusions from the authors, I am grateful for another investigation of the biblical data. Especially if we want to keep the eye-rolling to a minimum. His experiences as a young man, as well as his time working in student ministries, provided the occasion for much of what he writes in Raising Purity. Genesis 1 is where we should heavily look for instruction. We cannot think too carefully about what our heavenly Father has said.
Could this be used to justify premarital sex? Dating relationships are so fraught with danger that no Christian should embark on that journey without a guide. Perhaps even more importantly, who should draw them? For those wrestling against the stranglehold of regret, we hope this book will unleash in you a hunger for the grace-filled freedom of biblical purity. . When that question is asked, we all know how far is too far. Has heaven left each of us to decide for ourselves? Young adults who wish to follow Jesus wholeheartedly are faced daily with an onslaught of sexual temptation. Except for those gifted to singleness, marriage is the state and means whereby God matures and teaches us. He was obviously not tied to a need for sexual reproduction in order to propagate the species.