By the end of the summer I can just say that I'm glad I was strong enough to say no as many times as I had to - not all girls will be able to do that, and not all boys will take no for an answer! She says they could just be friends. I really hope she gets sick of him and tells him to nick off. And that its my job to keep her safe. To be honest, I was relieved when my parents kept me away from those guys. You have a wonderful opportunity to be a part of this milestone in your daughters life and it can actually enrich your relationship with her if she knows she can talk to you openly about her life. He came on here asking a question, and peopel have answered him in turn, with their own opinions.
Feel free to e-mail me individually, if you wish. He came over to do homework a couple times. Since he seems to have friends and a social life, let him figure out when and how to ask girls out. If she goes on a double date with another girlfriend or as a group to the movies, that is better. We are pretty lucky because the set rule for us in our house is you don't date till you are 16 and it's only group dating.
I will speak from my experience as a troubled teen. I'd also be wondering why they are dating someone so young. A 15-year-old girl is still a high school kid, while a 21-year-old guy is a young adult. You have your hands full at this age. I was dating when I was 14 or 15.
Child refuses to speak to you as you're 'uncool'. If my child was the 18yo I'd be advising them legally this is very shaky ground and encourage them to end it. I seriously think you should talk to the girls parents and then maybe have a get to gether with both familys yours and hers and discuss with them what could happen. You do no mention if the boy drives, but assuming he does not it makes it easier - his mom or dad will have to drive them and it makes it much easier to control. Some will be stricter,while those who are able to reflect back,may show more leniency. The process is very powerful, and my husband and I are planning to incorporate it into our personal and relationship coaching tools.
She would have saved me a lot of emotional stress in my teenage years if she would have had more age appropriate rules and expectations. My son didn't date at Berkeley High till a girl asked him to the prom. I've been keeping up with you'r post's on this site and i do not know from personal hand but i can imagine, how hard it is for you to get you'r son to listen to what you'r trying to tell him. He could get arrested even if both sets of parents were cool with it. .
A lot of oral sex goes on in dating, with definite health risks, loss of reputation, etc. See how he acts, listen to your gut reaction to him. You still want to keep them from any unneeded pain in their lives, but unfortunately most times they have to learn for themselves. He knows what is best for his son and the situation, all the people here can do, is offer help, suggestions and opinions. Invite him over for dinner one weekend and you could also invite him for a movie and popcorn with your family at home, you know just to get comfortable with him.
I dont exactly see whats the problem though, if theyre not having sex. Now we have cell phones and it's a different world, but still, it's important to be able to take care of yourself as opposed to calling for help. Of course, easier said than done. And again i wish you and you'r family the best of luck with you'r situation. If they are too tight it will backfire. Someday you will know a friend who will go to bases in hopes of gaining love, acceptance or popularity, to get attention, to numb a sadness inside her or because she feels obligated. I dated a few guys for the remainder of high school as well.
And I'm sure it's of particular interest to males. Around here the girl has to be at least 17. Especially if he was a high school kid. Girls do call boys and I can appreciate your dislike of this practice. My son also did not date as such when he was at Berkeley High although he partied a lot and had just friends relationships with many girls. No matter what, you don't want her to start 'hiding' things from you.